We Can Do It Too!

I love stories of women achieving their dreams.  There really isn't anything we can't do once we put our mind to it.  We are so fortunate in America to be able to do what we want to do.  We can set forth and achieve any goal we wish with hard work and determination, unlike many women in other countries.

At this moment, 16 year old Abby Sunderland is setting sail to reach her personal goal; to sail around the world solo.  You can read about her journey on her blog by clicking here.

How inspiring to young women!  She realized her dream and is living it at such a young age. Also, how great is it that her parents are supportive of that?  At 16, I was crossing my fingers and hoping to pass classes so I could graduate high school.

I always played sports growing up and my family enjoyed camping together when I was young.  I have one brother who is 7 years older so as I child I learned how to entertain myself and explore on my own.  It could be a reason why I enjoy wandering and exploring new places today, at 38.  It's just inside of me.

The thing is...it's never too late to do what you have always dreamed of doing.  I have to admit that it is easier for me since I chose not to have kids.  Instead, I worked right out of college and continued to work hard and climb a corporate ladder until I just couldn't stand it anymore.  The suits and heels weren't me.  I was pushing a product that didn't inspire or excite me.  Don't get me wrong, I am thankful for the opportunity I had and I learned a lot in the process but even as I left the company, most people knew and commented that the job just wasn't a reflection of who I was.

Who am I?  Well, I am a work in progress, as we all are.  I know that I am enjoying taking pictures and traveling.  Camping and being in nature rank high on my list of things that bring me joy.  As I mentioned with a previous blog, I met up with a group of strangers with one thing in common: we all had silver trailers and a love of the outdoors and camping.  A common topic of discussion among the group was how great it was for them to ditch their "normal" lives to come and spend a weekend with other women to talk about ideas, life and support each other with the belief of yes, we can do it too!  There were stories of how men would be in control of hitching and towing and that they never had the chance to do it or the opportunity to learn how to do it.  This was their chance to learn something new, feel empowered and leave with a sense of hope that they can achieve anything they set their mind to.

I am thankful to all of the women who paved the way for title 9 so I was able to have the opportunity to play basketball in college.  There are so many women who stuck their neck out to be trailblazers for a realization that yes, we can do it too.

I started a group on facebook for women who have a shared interest in camping and the outdoors.  If this is you, please click here to join (there is also a widget on the right of the blog).  No fees, just fun.

Today I am thankful for all of the women who took a chance so we are able to do the same.

Goal Completed: Bake a Cake

I know it may sound hard to believe, but I don't ever remember baking a cake.  Because of that severe lack of experience, I put it on my list of 39 goals to achieve this year.  Perhaps a simple task to most. For me, it seemed like something I would have to mentally gear up for.  I didn't specify that I was going to achieve this by baking a cake from scratch, so I did it the easier way...by way of a box mix.


The cake was a gift for my best friend's birthday.  Earlier in the week, I asked him what his favorite flavor of cake was.  He said German chocolate cake so I was relieved to find that exact flavor at the store.  A bonus was that they sold frosting for it on the next shelf!  I studied the box to learn that I also had to buy oil and eggs.  Remember, first time...

I had a day to mentally prepare for the cake bake off.

Today I was ready to make the magic happen.  I got all of the ingredients out and read the directions over and over.  More like, step 1,2,3...back to 1...then 2...

I was thrilled to see the photograph of a child and mother having such a wonderful time together on the box making this cake. They look so happy.

This is going to be fun!

I searched and searched for a measuring cup.  I swear that I had two at some point.  Today, they are nowhere to be found.  I know that I need exact measurements and couldn't just guess what a third of a cup looks like in a coffee mug.

Low and behold I found a blender with measure lines.  That'll work!  I measured, threw everything in a bowl and mixed it up.

 Glancing back at the photograph of the child while I was mixing...I didn't feel that excited in the process as she was. Maybe because she had measuring cups.

What are they so happy about?

Anyway, I poured the mix in a pan and baked it up.  I didn't have a toothpick so I used a match to test to see if it was ready.

I am not sure if it was ready (a small amount of batter was left on the stick) but I just assumed it was.  I'm sure the happy little girl had a toothpick.

The box told me to cool it for 10 minutes.  I let it cool for 4 hours. There is no way it would be cool in 10 minutes!  Not even close!

I spread the frosting and used some cocktail animals I found in the garage to decorate.

Voila!

A cake is born.

It was tasty.  Glad I put that experience under my belt.  I am so proud that I can hold my head up high and say, "why yes, I have baked a cake" in conversation in this highly discussed topic.  On to the next experience...

Don't Fence Me In

There is beauty in a fence. For some reason, I love to take pictures of them. Perhaps it's because it is a boundary trying to keep me out while I think of ways I can get to the other side. It's the line that tells you to stay where you belong. Sometimes, there is no beginning and no end. Most of the time, I respect the definition but there are moments I don't listen by crossing to the other side.

I am watching the PBS special, "An Emotional Life" that aired last week. You can watch this three part series online about how our brains react to emotions. Part one is friends, family and lovers, part two (I am watching this now) is facing our fears, and part three is rethinking happiness. I would recommend viewing each one.

What does this have to do with fences? Well, I suppose it's not the actual fence, but what the fence represents that's intriguing to me. I know that I have built fences in my brain in ways where I think that I can't get to a place I want to be because of something in the way.

As time moves on or when I think about it, the fences start to soften and loosen up for me to cross. It's still there reminding me of what I built up in my brain to get to a place I want to be.

I think it's good to question why we put up fences in our brain. Blocks to get to where we really want to be. Fear is a big reason and if we face the fear, the fence doesn't seem as intimidating to cross.

As an example: I had a well paid career that I worked hard at for years to get to a place where I had the flexibility to work from home and the amount of money I never thought I would ever make in my lifetime. Why would anyone give that up?

There were so many fears around the unknown for me. There is a good chance I will never make the same amount of money, have the flexibility and perceived "security" that I had. However, it wasn't what I really wanted to do and it didn't make me happy. After much thought and consideration, I left that world to wander around the country with my dog. After two years of being on the road and living as cheap as possible, it has given me more personal fulfillment and satisfaction than the job I had for 7 years.

Don't get me wrong, I love a challenge and I learned a lot in that career position. It just wasn't me and all the amount of money didn't fulfill my need to be who I truly wanted to be.

So here I am. Taking pictures of fences.

I would recommend watching these episodes if you haven't already. They are well done and gives you a chance to reflect on your own thinking and what you can do to get to the place you want to be. I am thankful that I took the leap to make a much needed change in my life. I wouldn't trade it for the world. Thank you for letting me share it with you. Here are some more pictures of fences I've taken during my travels:






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